Is adoption an option?
If you don't feel ready to parent, adoption is a choice which respects life. While it is true that adoption can be a difficult process, if you are unable to raise a child, it can be a huge relief, and it is always a better choice than the tragedy of abortion.
There is no easy solution to an unplanned pregnancy. Each choice is hard and has its own difficulties. You can empower yourself by getting as much information as you can get about your options. Giving yourself time to consider carefully and weigh each option will help you make the right decision for you and your baby.
There are many organizations that are willing to help you with the process, both locally, like St. Joseph's Center, and internationally/over the phone/internet, such as Bethany Christian Services.
Adoption today may not be what you think. Openness has changed adoption. Today, adoption is not about severing relationships-it's about changing them. While it's true that with adoption, your parental rights and responsibilities are given to another set of parents, that doesn't end your ability to have a relationship with your child. Open adoption involves an ongoing, dynamic relationship between you, the adoptive parents, and your child.
There are different types of openness to meet different needs and levels of comfort. You owe it to yourself and your baby to at least get some information about the options available in adoption, so that whatever you choose, your decision is one that you have thought through and is based on facts.
Most adoption agencies will help you learn the options you have within adoption and decide what is best for you and your child.
Questions about adoption
How can I make a plan that will meets the needs of me and my child?
Adoption can be a difficult process, but there are many resources available. Many organizations, such as Bethany Christian Services offer invaluable help, resources, and information. They can help you come up with a unique plan that allows for your own interests while ensuring that your child is given a proper chance at life.
Can I choose the family for my baby?
Yes! Most agencies have many adoptive couples who have been studied and approved. You might also want to choose a friend or someone who has been recommended to you.
How much contact can I have with my baby after the birth and after adoption?
You can spend as much time with your baby at the hospital as you choose. When you are planning your child's adoption, you can choose an open adoption plan that allows ongoing visits, or you can choose a less open adoption that keeps you informed through letters and photos. If you prefer not to have any contact, confidential adoption is also possible.
Your child can find a home.
There are between one and two million infertile and fertile couples and individuals who would like to adopt children. According to a survey by the National Council For Adoption (NCFA) there were 54,492 unrelated adoptions (adoptions by people not related to the child adopted) of American children in 1996.
Babies, regardless of medical problems, who are "free for adoption," generally do not wait long for families. There are waiting lists of couples who would like to adopt infants with Down Syndrome or Spina Bifida. The A K.I.D.S. Exchange reports that they have over 100 approved families waiting to adopt children with Down Syndrome. There are also a large number of couples who would like to adopt terminally ill babies, including babies with AIDS. ABC-TV's "20/20" reported that they had received over 25,000 self-addressed stamped envelopes from individuals wanting to adopt Romanian orphans.